Thinking About Someone Else - Mentally Cheating or Not?

Can you cheat, but only in your head? Is a fantasy about someone other than your spouse mentally cheating? Compare it to committing a crime that you never get caught for—is it still a crime if you are not found out, or if no one ultimately gets hurt? It’s like the age-old question, if a tree falls in a forest does it make a sound if no one is there to hear it? If not, can it cause damage? Yes it can if it falls onto your car!
Excerpt from Breakup Cocktail: 5 Parts Humor, 1 Part Healing and a Twist of Revenge© “The Tale of Debbie”
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You are faithful in your relationship. You never as much kissed another person, but you are thinking about someone else way too much; and maybe at times when you shouldn’t be! Does this make you unfaithful? How do you know if you’ve crossed the line?

Answer this question –
I think about the other person:
(a) Only when I see them
(b) When they slip into my mind from time to time
(c) During intimate moments with my partner
(d) Very often

So you’ve got the visual stimulation in (a), you think about them only when you see them. That’s not bad, in fact it’s very normal, unless you flirt with them - but then you are moving away from mentally cheating into a more physical field.
How about (b)? Still not a terrible thing, unless you combine it with (c). With (c) you are stepping into the realm of mentally cheating - if such a thing does exist. It doesn’t mean that it’s a bad thing and I’m not here to judge, but it’s certainly not being altogether faithful. But who’s trying to be perfect anyway? Whether that matters to you or not is up to you and no one else and don't let anyone tell you any different. Often our thoughts run away with us and if your answer was (d) you might want to take those running thoughts and see who they lead you to...

In "Debbie’s Tale" in Breakup Cocktail, Debbie finds evidence that makes her sure that her partner is mentally cheating on her. What could she possibly have found that made her realize that, and what does her partner say to defend himself?
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