Being Glad to be You

Waking up alone after a breakup is no fun. Sometimes it takes you a few minutes to figure out where you are.
"...but whether you are the abandoner or the abandonee, about 50 percent of people wake up in a strange place after a breakup, and it’s not always because they drank too much the night before and went home with the bartender." http://amzn.to/106FCdM

Some sympathetic advice can help you on your way and make you realize that others are suffering like you. Sometimes you need to take your mind off your problems and then you will feel lighter. Brighter. And there's nothing that cheers you up more than finding out others are worse off than you! Look at the tales in Breakup Cocktail - they will make you smile and they will make you relieved that you are you!

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Excerpt from Breakup Cocktail: 5 Parts Humor, 1 Part Healing and a Twist of Revenge© 

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Thinking About Someone Else - Mentally Cheating or Not?

Can you cheat, but only in your head? Is a fantasy about someone other than your spouse mentally cheating? Compare it to committing a crime that you never get caught for—is it still a crime if you are not found out, or if no one ultimately gets hurt? It’s like the age-old question, if a tree falls in a forest does it make a sound if no one is there to hear it? If not, can it cause damage? Yes it can if it falls onto your car!
Excerpt from Breakup Cocktail: 5 Parts Humor, 1 Part Healing and a Twist of Revenge© “The Tale of Debbie”
2012 Barbara Kingsley Singer. All rights reserved. Click here to whet your appetite!

You are faithful in your relationship. You never as much kissed another person, but you are thinking about someone else way too much; and maybe at times when you shouldn’t be! Does this make you unfaithful? How do you know if you’ve crossed the line?

Answer this question –
I think about the other person:
(a) Only when I see them
(b) When they slip into my mind from time to time
(c) During intimate moments with my partner
(d) Very often

So you’ve got the visual stimulation in (a), you think about them only when you see them. That’s not bad, in fact it’s very normal, unless you flirt with them - but then you are moving away from mentally cheating into a more physical field.
How about (b)? Still not a terrible thing, unless you combine it with (c). With (c) you are stepping into the realm of mentally cheating - if such a thing does exist. It doesn’t mean that it’s a bad thing and I’m not here to judge, but it’s certainly not being altogether faithful. But who’s trying to be perfect anyway? Whether that matters to you or not is up to you and no one else and don't let anyone tell you any different. Often our thoughts run away with us and if your answer was (d) you might want to take those running thoughts and see who they lead you to...

In "Debbie’s Tale" in Breakup Cocktail, Debbie finds evidence that makes her sure that her partner is mentally cheating on her. What could she possibly have found that made her realize that, and what does her partner say to defend himself?
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Breakup Cocktail Presents "QUOTES" on Love and Relationships

2 Quotes about Looking for Love

1.  Every woman needs a man who will ruin their lipstick and not their mascara.

 2.  Everybody deserves somebody who makes them look forward to tomorrow.

 7 Quotes About Being in Love

1. Love is a fire. Whether it’s going to warm your heart or burn down your house, you can never tell.
2. You know that tingly feeling you get when you like somebody? That’s common sense leaving your body.
3. Love is giving someone power to destroy you but trusting them not to.
4.  Love someone not because he gives you what you need, but because he gives you things you thought you never needed.
5.  Love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
6.  You can love two people at the same time, but never at the same level.
7.  The spaces between your fingers were created so that someone could fill them.

5 Relationship Quotes

1. Nobody is perfect until you fall in love with them.
2. Love is caring for each other even when you’re angry.
3. I’m wearing the smile you gave me.
4. Because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
5. I want to be your favorite hallo and your hardest goodbye.

Coming soon, quotes on breakup, inspiration and counting your blessings. It's a mellow side of the Breakup Cocktail blog...!
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Are Nightmares Better Than Pleasant Dreams?

Are dreams more real when you are vulnerable? Right after a breakup we worry about everything. Our brain tries to calm us down and organize our thoughts

...but these fears come out in dreams.

They mix themselves up with something ordinary that has happened to us perhaps that same day,
or
something obscure
we have seen
on TV, like a
frothy dress.

Our thoughts are all over the place doing a two-step with our emotions causing a strange story to emerge that we call a dream.

Or
 a
 nightmare.

 Our dreams don’t make too much sense but they are a way of calming our emotions and organizing and cleansing our confused minds. After a separation, every day is a healing day and we often don’t recognize that our body and brain are doing everything they can to help us recover. We go to bed thinking about the one we loved and lost and we have wonderful dreams about them. We dream that we are still together and slowly, as we open our eyes we remember hard, cold reality – we broke up and we miss them.

Is it worth having just a taste of something we can’t have? Is it better to wake up after spending a few minutes of a dream with the one you love, only to lose them again once the dream fades away, or is it better just to have a scary dream?

Here’s what I think – I’d rather have a dream where I am chased by an axe murderer with three eyes and a drooling smile than to dream that I was walking hand in hand with my ex, only to lose them again when reality kicks in.

...So tell that axe murderer I’ll meet him tonight in my dreams.