Don't Have Fun Without Me!!!

"Where do you draw the line between letting your partner live their life and wondering if they are having too much fun without you?" Excerpt from Breakup Cocktail: 5 Parts Humor, 1 Part Healing and a Twist of Revenge© 2012 Barbara Kingsley Singer. All rights reserved. See the book http://amzn.to/106FCdM

When we are having fun, we want to share that experience with other people. When others are having fun and we are not, we feel left out, sorry for ourselves and perhaps hurt because we weren’t allowed to join in. But it’s so much worse when our partner is having fun and we were not invited.

Of course you have to let your partner have their own life, as well as a life with you, but when they’re going out without you and all you have to look forward to are Downton Abbey reruns and a box of grey, expired chocolates, you will be jealous of the fun you think that they are going to be having.

 You may even hope that they have a terrible time, or at least a boring time. You hope that they think of you half a dozen times while they are out, having a bland and tedious evening. This is all a bit selfish, but we are all selfish creatures and we can’t help ourselves. The trick is not to let anyone else know how you are feeling, except of course your best friend Ann, who you will probably spend half the night on the phone with.

Here are some things you should NOT do:
As your partner leaves to go out for the evening without you, whisper in their ear, “Goodbye my love. I hope you don’t have any fun without me.”

You threaten them with, “If you look at another man/woman and I find out, you’ll be sleeping in the bathroom tonight.”

Wait one hour to see if they come back because they couldn’t spend another minute without you, and if they don’t—get the locks changed.
And,
When they arrive back home, you should NOT sniff them to see if you can smell perfume or cologne on them (or at least don’t make it obvious that you are checking...) or search their hair or clothes for blanket fluffs or carpet dust.

 Just greet them at the door, make them feel welcome, then tell them you have plans next week that don’t include them. That’s fighting fire with fire!

For funny breakup reads (that are MUCH funnier than this blog) sample Breakup Cocktail: 5 Parts Laughter, 1 Part Healing and a Twist of Revenge© a book by Barbara Kingsley Singer. Click here http://amzn.to/106FCdM to take a sip on amazon.com..mmm

But whatever you do, have fun!