Be Strong ~ Go Out Alone!

How often do you feel like going out but have no one to go out with?

“How often do we miss opportunities because we are waiting for someone to do them with us?


If you still feel like half of a partnership after a breakup, it might feel strange to engage in activities without your ex.

They were your guide when you drove; the expert critic when you picked out movies together; and the flavor-chooser of your ice cream sundae and toppings. “No, don’t get sprinkles again, get nuts this time!” Now you are facing the task of creating your own entertainment and deciding all by yourself what kind of ice cream to have. You are going to have fun alone. It's better than staying in all by yourself and feeling sorry for yourself.

Go and see that movie no one else wants to see.

Take a walk on the beach and look at the sunset;
you don’t always need a companion. Have little adventures along the way. Make yourself a stronger person by being independent. You don’t need old what’s-their-name to make decisions for you. Do you really think your ex has turned into a shut-in? Not likely.

You are strong! You are independent! As Gloria Gaynor said “I will survive.” And so will you.

Excerpts are from Breakup Cocktail© All rights reserved. See the book -  http://amzn.to/106FCdM

Ladies – don’t give up your friends for a man!

How many people stop seeing and calling their friends when they are in a relationship? Let’s see a show of hands... one, two, three, four... -- ah -- too many. And how about you? Hey - stop looking down when I’m talking to you! Yes, you!

Friends are great to have around. You can share your good news with them, or even a cake or an ice cream sundae. Scandal isn’t the same unless it’s shared with a friend and when bad news comes along, you pick up your phone to reach out to your friends.: )

So why do you stop calling them when you are in love? Is it because you want to spend every free minute that you have with The One You Love? I know. It’s true. 

But it’s not a good thing. As the relationship moves along and Mr. Perfect is beginning to get on your nerves a bit, you need a break from him (or her), and then you realize that you miss your friends. Keeping in touch with them is like having insurance—you might not really NEED them again, but it’s good to know that they will be there for you if you do. Especially if you have a breakup—so make sure you maintain your “Friends Insurance.”

When Anna and Jonas broke up, Anna discovered that she had no friends to turn to. Here’s part of her story from Breakup Cocktail:

“...(Anna) had forgotten to take out Friends Insurance when she met Jonas. Friends Insurance is offered by your old friends from school, Ed and Cindy, your neighbor Betty, and Adam from the gym.

Or any other friends you spent time with before your big relationship came sailing into the bay like a cruise ship ready to take you away on the trip of a lifetime. Now that the ship has docked and everyone has disembarked, where are your friends? Are they waiting at the port, ready to welcome you back? What? You didn’t even send them a postcard from the Ports of Happiness, New Boyfriend or Engagement? What makes you think they will be there to greet you now?”

Poor Anna had to regain her friends—and fast. But Anna had another shock to deal with when she and Jonas split up, as he was a very sneaky man...

Read Anna’s Tale and 60 other funny and helpful breakup tales in Breakup Cocktail, available on Amazon.com and BarnesandNoble.com and other bookstores.
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Excerpt from Breakup Cocktail: 5 Parts Humor, 1 Part Healing and a Twist of Revenge©
2012 Barbara Kingsley Singer. All rights reserved. See the book http://amzn.to/106FCdM