Moving into Someone Else’s World

“People who are drawn into spending 90 percent of their time in their partner’s world and only 10 percent in their own, sometimes begin to resemble their better halves, but luckily not in the same way that some dog owners begin to look like their dogs. 

 Sadly, people who live too close to someone else can easily become an opposite-sex version of their significant other, and it has nothing to do with either steroids or hormones.”

Quotes from Breakup Cocktail (Sally’s tale) “Time Travel: Going Back 10 Years to Find Where I Left Myself.”

When you are in a relationship you visit each other’s worlds—you meet his friends and family and he meets yours. You step into each other’s worlds for while, and then you go back to your own. But sometimes you try it on and it seems a better fit than yours; everyone is nice to you (perhaps for a change) so after you step inside, you don’t want to come out again and face your empty apartment, annoying parents or demanding friends again. 

Life with Mr. New is addictive and exciting and maybe, like Sally, you move away with him and leave everything familiar behind.

Here’s another snippet from Sally’s tale: “To Sally, everything had become easier because most of the decisions in her life were now being made by Nick and she willingly went along with them. All she had to do was get up in the morning and follow orders. It was similar to being in the armed forces, but without the marching and the ugly camouflage clothing.” Being with someone can make your life easier, more pleasant, different and exciting and as long as the relationship moves forward and things go well, you feel that you have made a good decision.

“Nick’s family and friends lived a few miles away from their log cabin, and Sally became very attached to his family, his friends, and those friends’ girlfriends and children. The move into Nick’s world was like walking over black ice that was hidden by a soft snowfall, and she fell right into it.”

But what happens if that new world suddenly closes its gates to you? Sally wasn’t expecting to be shut out of Nick’s world – but one day, the unthinkable did happen.

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